All parents want the best for their children. Sometimes, however, they don't realize how their actions make children spoiled. Unintentional parenting mistakes can affect child development and behavior that reflects on children's behavior as adults.
What are the parenting mistakes that make the child spoiled?
Rewarding bad behavior
Sometimes it is a real challenge for parents to deal with bad behavior of children. They agree to the child's request, just to calm down. If, for example, the child cries and has angry outbursts because at that moment he wants ice cream, and you resist this desire, he begins to cry even harder.At some point you give in and agree to give him ice cream to calm him down.
This is a mistake that is not good to make, because the child gets used to the fact that with more assertive behavior he will break you and eventually get what he wants. Bad behavior should not be rewarded. It is preferable to stick to your ban and explain in detail to the child why you are refusing him.
Protecting children from consequences
There is no parent who does not want to protect their children from all the bad things in the world. The negative consequences of various circumstances, mistakes, reactions of other people are just some of the things that could cause pain and negative emotions in children. But the consequences of circumstances are life's best teacher. In most cases, it is better to let the child suffer the consequences of his words, actions, mistakes in order to learn the necessary lessons. This is how characters, personal qualities and skills are built.
Rewarding with material goods
It is true that we live in a material world, but rewarding a child's every achievement with material goods, money, technology, promises to buy him something expensive or something he wants only feeds the child's spoiledness and turns the material in the main higher value in his ideas. Moral motives remain in the background.
You apologize to the child when he is angry or frustrated
Many parents make the mistake of apologizing to their child when they scold him for something, when they forbid something or when they disagree with the child's behavior. In doing so, you are actually belittling your authority. There are times when apologies are important and educational, but there are also times when apologies make your actions less serious.
You make policy discounts
The child will grow up spoiled if you set rules that you constantly break, give in and agree with his arguments.You can do that, of course, but it's important to only accept the solid arguments from the child's side. If you overturn any rules you have imposed, the child will get used to having his objections accepted very easily and will not try to follow the rules.