is a difficult period that presents a real challenge to thousands of parents around the world. Adolescent children begin to fight for their independence, rebel against their parents, experience depressive states because of the active search for their place in their social environment, which gives rise to a number of anxieties and worries. Adolescents at this age become withdrawn and very often put a wall between themselves and their parents as a form of rebellion.
It is normal for parents not to know how to properly react in these situations. It is possible that they make mistakes that cause teenagers to withdraw even more and make it difficult to communicate with children at this difficult age.
What can you do as a parent of a teen? How to get him to communicate with you openly again?
Be honest with your child about your adolescence
Children at this age are keenly interested in the experiences of their parents at the same age. They like to listen to the stories of adults, to compare themselves with them, to know that similar things happened to their parents that excite them now. Don't be afraid to talk even about the things you are not proud of, but without giving them as an example, just the opposite.
Ask open questions
With these questions you will make the child talk more. Remember not to pressure. Don't interrogate him like a detective, but rather encourage him to share. Avoid questions that require a yes or no answer.
Involve them in making dinner
A lot of magic happens in the kitchen. Where food is prepared for loved ones, the mood is always conducive to conversation, laughter and jokes.
Don't scold your teenager like you did when he was a toddler
Teaching, punishing, reprimanding in the ways that you did when the child was small do not apply at this age. For teenagers, the approach should be different. Try talking like a grown-up who already understands you well enough when you give him remarks and correct him.
Don't force the child to see only the positive things in everything
Teenagers experience changes in world perception that make them see only gloomy and pessimistic pictures. This is very typical for this age and is not something you should worry about. However, it is good in your conversations with the child to find out how far these gloomy feelings extend in order to prevent him from falling into deep depressions.
But if you force him to necessarily see the positive side of life, you will push him away even more. Be moderate and be more understanding. This is what children at this age need.
Show interest in his hobbies
Children at this age have their own hobbies and things they like to do. Be interested in them. Don't criticize him harshly. If you disagree with things he does, don't attack him directly. If it seems to you that his hobbies are dangerous or there is a risk of injury, if it is about extreme sports for example, explain all your fears and reasons. Remember that direct prohibitions and despotic attitude will not lead to the desired result.