The skill of holding a conversation, whether formal, collegial or just friendly, is difficult to master. Some people carry this skill by nature. They have a sense of how to get their point across without forcing it. They listen, accept other people's opinions, comment on them and offer their views in an unobtrusive way. These master conversationalists know how to actively listen and speak without overstepping others' boundaries.
In contrast to these natural experts in conducting a conversation, there are people who are at the exact opposite pole. They annoy others with their inability to converse and are therefore often shunned and openly attacked. Their way of communicating repels and often causes conflict situations.
If you also cause similar negative reactions in people, maybe the fault is not in them, as you thought until now, but in you.
What are the most annoying mistakes in conversation that prevent you from normal communication and turn people away from you?
You are pessimistic
Pessimism is a self-reinforcing mechanism. When you are convinced that you will not be well received and liked by others, this is exactly what happens. And vice versa - when you approach conversations with others with openness and positivity, they welcome you and respond in the same way in their communication with you.
Dominate the conversations
If you constantly try to impose yourself in communication with people, they will be instinctively repelled. They won't want to talk to you, argue with you, and seek your opinion. Some people confuse holding a position with active purposeful dominance in a conversation. If you want your word to always be last and to be perceived as law by others, your communication will not be successful, but irritating and off-putting.
You correct people too often
One of the most off-putting and irritating things someone can do to you is publicly question your knowledge and hurt your ego. Most often, this happens through constant correction, questioning of the facts presented by you, even in purely everyday conversations. If you constantly counter your interlocutors, they will reciprocate and avoid your company.
You use "I" or "you" instead of "we"
Criticizing others is perfectly normal and useful in many cases. A fair person would use an example that includes a collective pronoun to make their point. However, the judge always uses "I" or "you", with which he not only dominates the conversation, but also imputes guilt to his interlocutor."You're wrong because", "You always do this without thinking", "I would never do that" are all phrases that deeply affect and irritate. When you want to set an example or point someone in what you think is the right direction, try collective examples. It's more bearable for the person opposite you and works better.
You talk too fast and don't listen
Many people find fast and fast talking to be stressful and very irritating. The echoes of your chatter remain in the space, making others think you are a pushy person who is constantly rambling without listening.
