“There are two ways to live your life: as an ordinary thing or as a miracle” - Albert Einstein
This is the motto of the book " Life can be a miracle", which readers say works like therapy: it lifts the spirit, lifts the mood and inspires us to look at life as on a wonderful adventure
"Life can be a miracle" is a book that for the first time offers psychology for everyday use presented in a novel written by a Bulgarian author, at a level not inferior to many foreign bestsellers in the same genre.
About the author
Ivinela Samuilova was born on 1971-10-04 inSevlievo. He graduated from a language high school in the city of Vratsa with Spanish and English, and then a master's degree in theology at the University of Veliko Tarnovo. There are a number of additional qualifications and training: business management and administration, journalism, PR, psychology and others. For some time he worked as a radio journalist in his hometown, and subsequently joined the team of a large company in the city of Sevlievo, where he held various positions, the last of which was "public relations". In 2005, he moved to Sofia, where he worked in the field of marketing. In order to satisfy his various interests, in 2007 Ivinela established the "Klaritas" foundation, whose main activity is currently related to the preservation and popularization of Bulgarian musical folklore. In the development stage are programs aimed at supporting the development of humane qualities in young people, as well as programs aimed at improving various aspects of women's lives, with particular attention to single mothers.
Ivinela Samuilova's creative pursuits are aimed at the inner world of man and his relationship with God, the world and his neighbors.
“I hope you really like this book and find it therapeutic - at worst, laughter therapy. I hope, however, that you will find much more in it than a few hilarious incidents. In fact, I hope you will recognize yourself, but in a different way, discovering new resources of your own that you never realized you had or could use. This is exactly what happened to me when I met Alexey Bachev - at that time a psychologist at the Ministry of Defense. I wrote this book because I wanted to share with more people his extraordinary lessons that showed me how to live as if nothing is accidental, as if everything is wonderful in its essence. But really, this book is not about Alexey - this book is about all "Adi-tas" - about people who refuse to live their lives as if they were ordinary, some meaningless coincidence, and despite the circumstances they continue to seek and discover the miracle. This book does not offer secrets, mega-secrets, algorithms or any ready-made and universal recipes for happiness. Rather, it shows how we can stop hypnotically following learned patterns in our daily lives, how to restore our personal connection with the world, and thus begin to manifest in our lives - as intelligent and unique beings - the limitless potential of the universe, and at once, in every situation, every day, so that we can be, do and have what we need." - Ivinela Samuilova
About the book
If you are a person who is not satisfied with the conventional description of reality, who does not take himself too seriously, who wants to explore his own possibilities, who insists on living with his soul, this book is for you!
From a young age, Adi unreservedly believes that her life will be extraordinary. Gradually, however, as happens with all of us, I got stuck in the routine of everyday life. Losing touch with herself, Adi believes that only if she discovers her Calling will she be able to make sense of her existence. Then she meets the more special psychologist Alexey, who helps her look at herself and her life from a different angle. Adi realizes that, dragged down by her fears, beliefs and (pre)conceptions, she has lost her true identity.
Told in an authentic and moving way, Adi's story of the search for Meaning epitomizes the lives of many people today - lives limited by society. Frameworks that define for us what is real and unreal, achievable and unattainable, acceptable and unacceptable. Alexey's extraordinary lessons, which began with a tiny piece of blue cheese and a huge fork, reveal practically how we can stop the hypnotic following of learned patterns in our daily lives and restore our original connection with the world. Only in this way is it possible to turn our ordinary life into an extraordinary experience.
P. S. When reading this book, be sure to include your sense of humor.
Snippet
Since the first time, with an almost trembling voice, he introduced himself to the other participants in the seminar for psychologists "as a theologian who cannot find himself" (let alone God), more than a year had passed. During that time, all kinds of amazing things happened and continued to happen in her life. Addie had entered a process that she did not understand exactly how it worked, but she was constantly observing its incredible effects. Alexei had dragged them in there, and for people with a more standard view of the world, some of the things they did were too wacky, but Adi was ecstatic.
Actually it all started after the workshop when the group of 7-8 people moved to a nearby restaurant to have a treat. The others were talking about various cases with clients, using specific terms, and Adi felt out of place. However, after a glass of wine, she was afraid to turn to Alexey and ask the question that so excited her about the meaning. It began veiledly, not talking about himself, but basically:
– Alexey, what would you say about a person who cannot find the meaning and whatever he does, it all seems insignificant and even futile.
– Well, that person thinks a lot – said Alexey, and Adi didn't know if he answered her seriously or just dismissed the question. She felt a tension in her stomach as if she were in an exam, her palms sweaty and her face flushed. Adi lit a cigarette to hide her worry, and even though the conversation had taken another turn, she decided to use the opportunity to get an answer.
Alexey was next to her and she touched him lightly on the arm to get his attention. When he turned to her, Adi said, – I can't find my calling, I don't know what I want to do, I feel like I'm lost, I can't make sense of my life and it depresses me terribly.
– What do you like to eat the most? – asked Alexey.
The others had been silent, listening to the conversation and now they laughed. Addie would probably have been embarrassed and considered the question inappropriate if she hadn't already sensed from the others' attitudes that Alexei was some kind of special person. She thought for a moment. The others looked at her quizzically, someone couldn't stand it and whispered:
– Chocolate!
– No – said Adi. – I love chocolate, but most of all I love… blue cheese.
She didn't understand at all where that cheese came to her mind, she had never thought about what she liked to eat the most, but just saying it made her mouth fill with saliva.
– Mmm… – she purred.
From several countries it was heard:
– Ugh, crap!
Everyone started to laugh, but immediately fell silent when Alexei started to speak:
– Listen now what are you going to do. You will buy blue cheese…
– I have! Adi exclaimed.
– … You will cut yourself a small piece of meat – continued Alexey. - That's it. - He showed his finger about 1 cm. - You will put it in a big plate, you will take a big fork…
– Could the one with the two teeth in the kitchen sets be used for fish? – interrupted Adi.
– Cool! - answered Alexey. – You will take this fork, poke the cheese and eat it with the greatest pleasure.
Everyone laughed and started cracking jokes at Adi. She was also laughing, but suddenly made a startled face:
– At home, they'll probably say I'm crazy when they see me eating my blue cheese like that.
She gasped loudly as she imagined how her loved ones were looking at her.
– You don't need to be seen, - noted Alexei.
– Right, Adi agreed.
She stayed another ten minutes, then excused herself and got up to leave. Now he had an option and he was no longer turning her around, he was only thinking about how and when he would do it. He thanked Alexey, said goodbye and left.
As much as she wanted to, she realized that tonight she wouldn't have a chance to eat the cheese "that" way. However, he was in high spirits throughout the evening, went to bed with a smile and immediately fell asleep.
In the morning he heard the alarm, pressed the button to stop it, and in his usual gloomy morning mood began to get ready to get up. At one point, however, he remembered the cheese and almost jumped. She barely calmed down enough to slip slightly out of bed without being noticed by her sleeping lover. He went to the kitchen to put water on the coffee, went through the bathroom and returned to the kitchen. For about a minute I stand frozen in the middle of the room wondering if he should eat the cheese now or drink his coffee first. She decided she was too sleepy to do the cheese "ritual" properly and sat down to drink coffee.
When he finished, he got up, opened the door and listened - it was not heard that anyone had woken up yet. He selected one of the large round plates from the cupboard, took the cheese out of the fridge, cut off a tiny piece, as much as Alexei had shown, and placed it in the middle of the plate. He unhooked the large two-pronged fork from the set hanging on the wall next to the stove and listened again at the door. It was still quiet. With a pounding heart, he sat down at the table in front of the plate, took the big fork, poked the cheese carefully and brought it to his mouth.
Adi realized how ridiculous the situation was and it amused her terribly. She let out a few sounds of bliss as she tasted the cheese melting in her mouth. She hadn't swallowed yet, but because she was worried that someone might come in at any moment and cook her like that, she got up quickly, washed the plate and fork, dried them, and put them back in their places.
She felt very strange - a kind of ecstasy filled her, she did not feel an ounce of tension, expectation or worry about whether something would follow after this kind of "ritual" - her feeling was more of relief and liberation.
Now, after the time spent in Alexei's company, Adi had some explanation for that feeling. It came when she did things that had no logic, that were so absurd that they managed to block reason and stop her otherwise constant internal dialogue. What she did that morning was radically different from all those algorithms that abound in various "do one, two and three to get four" books, creating huge expectations in her that most often did not come true. Alexey's task with the cheese, on the contrary, was more about destroying the very possibility of anticipation, breaking it out of the pattern it had been stuck in, namely: Adi has no vocation.
