4 thought traps that harm us

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4 thought traps that harm us
4 thought traps that harm us

We know that our way of thinking largely determines our behavior and the decisions we make. We also tend to be misled by other people's thoughts. See which 4 thought traps can prevent our happiness.


Also known as the halo effect, it is a preconceived general impression of a person (object, phenomenon) that is built on the basis of only one trait of his character, characteristic or appearance, given to him by someone called an "evaluator “.

According to him, people tend to unwittingly attribute socially desirable traits to outwardly pleasing people. Or to put it briefly, sometimes we are mistaken about someone being nice, smart, kind, even if we don't have direct evidence of this. Of course, the rating can also be negative for someone, especially someone we don't know well, because a third person told us something negative about them.

The bad thing about this thought trap is that it suppresses our ability to make real judgment and as a result we trust someone we shouldn't.

The Lake Wobegon Effect

This effect is also known as the overconfidence effect. Unlike self-criticism, which is also a faulty thinking pattern and leads to low self-esteem when it is in excess, this effect is the positive illusion that some people create for themselves, evaluating their capabilities "above average". Maybe each of you has at least one such colleague.

Ultimately, this effect harms the person, because he does not see his own mistakes, does not think that he needs to improve himself and acquire new knowledge. In the long run, such people rarely achieve real success.

Paradox of Abilene

This paradox is common in the work environment. It lies in the fact that each (or some) individual participant is afraid to express his preferences, so that the rest of his colleagues do not have a bad impression of him. Ultimately, the team makes a decision about a workflow or something that doesn't satisfy everyone on the team. This type of misunderstanding is due to poor communication in the work environment.

Reading Other People's Minds

Perhaps there is no person who, at least once and according to a certain situation, has not said to himself that he knows exactly at that moment what the other party thinks about him. We believe that we know what thoughts are going through the other person's head and we are absolutely convinced that they are negative towards us. This wrong way of thinking can cause us to change our attitude towards this person and this can lead to nervous exhaustion for us.

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